We are living longer lives, and have choices now as never before about how we will age.But what will make us happy? What changes, made right now, will help us to flourish as we age?This book contains the invaluable lessons Dr Lucy Pollock has learnt from over thirty years of working with older people, from tales of loss, to impossible families, and the importance of learning to live with uncertainty. Medical teams have not always heard the voices of older people or their loved ones.But if we are given power to influence the lives of our future selves, how best shall we use it?